How to deal with anxiety?

“Anxiety is not something that goes away. It’s something you learn to control”                           -Anonymous

To those who don’t know what anxiety is, it is an apprehensive uneasiness or nervousness usually over an impending or anticipated ill. Sometimes it gets worse to a point that it evolves into despair. If you know me you know that I probably have 99 health issues and anxiety is literally the worst one. I get obnoxiously anxious even over little things. Want to know how I deal with my anxiety? These are some simple and effortless tips I follow. Why don’t you just give it a go, maybe it can work for you as well.

• Add some colors:
                           According to a study, if you are surrounded by gloomy colors you tend to have gloomy thoughts. And eventually gloomy thoughts leads to worries resulting in anxiety. So, have some cheerful colors surround you for a cheerful mood. Either you can paint some bright joyous hues in the walls of your bedroom or add them to your closet.

• Listen to some good music:
                          A good music can ease your anxiety beyond imagination. The plain music heals your anxious mind, provides calmness and creates a peaceful environment amidst all the worries. So, download the music of your choice on your phone and whenever anxiety strucks just plug your earphones in and listen to the music until you feel completely comfortable and calm.

• Meditate and exercise:
                          The best way to reduce anxiety is to meditate and exercise. I highly recommend you to take some time off as soon as you wake up to do some basic exercises and meditation. It will smoothly ease your brain and give it the much needed rest from all the worries.

• Try reminishing good memories:
                           Bad things happen but they usually alternate with good memories so try holding on to those memories during the tough hours. Always remember that the dark night precedes the dawn.

• Organise stuffs:
                           If you have some important meetings, presentation or even usual stuffs, just organise everything neatly so that in the last hour you don’t have to rush or feel anxious and worry about incomplete or unarranged stuffs. Also check everything before you leave anywhere.

• Always carry a water bottle:
                          No matter where you go always carry a water bottle with you. If you develop the habit of sipping some water as soon as you feel anxiety kicking in, it not only calms your anxiety but it also keeps you hydrated. Also always drink at least two glasses of water as soon as you wake up.

Do you have any suggestions regarding the anxiety remedies? If you do please share them in the comment section below.

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Is gender discrimination still prevalent?

In the morning, I came through a rather disgusting situation. While in College, our english teacher asked us if gender discrimination is still prevalent and to my surprise most of my male classmates said yes but instead of actuality that females whatsoever are mainly discriminated they claimed that the males are much more discriminated with possibly the most ridiculous reasons like females get some reservations in everything and they have the right to get divorced from males without male’s consent but males can’t do the same and that if a girl complains to the police of sexual harassment the police officers will without any further questions arrest the blaimed and much more equally ridiculous accusations. Some even said that females should be limited to household chores and can’t take the workload at “work”. And guess what he agreed.

Wait, let me clarify the accussations. Firstly, yes females are reserved some seats in every sector whether political or career it’s because of the sole reason that females in our country or wheresoever are usually oppressed and demotivated so to motivate them to take part in every sector they are given some reservations. Also, the reservations female get in public transport are provided because of their physical liabilities like unbearable menstrual cramps, pre as well as post pregnancy uncomfort and menopausal weakness.

Generally, in our society, calm and unexpressive women are considered to be society’s grace whereas the expressive ones are considered as the disgrace. The unexpressive women don’t address the domestic violence. So, to motivate them to fight against the violence, the law that allows wives to call off their marriage without their husband’s consent seems logical.

Talking about another accusation, why would a girl put false accusations about her own sexual harassment? Maybe some (rarely some idk) do that but I don’t think that’s even right to think that a girl or anyone will do so. If you are talking about the males in my country trust me I wouldn’t doubt her either. And I am not saying that all the males in my country enjoy catcalling but majority do. Yes they do(don’t argue on this) because I know better.

Ok, so males are dominated, right? Of course, they are. They get paid less than female co-workers. Their views and dreams are almost always oppressed. They are verbally harrased by the group of dominant females every time they pass through them in the street. According to a recent survey, nearly one in four male will be a victim of sexual assault in his lifetime and is likely to get raped. So, these facts are all true, isn’t it? If these facts were true, I wouldn’t have to write these long paragraphs explaining the ‘real’ facts.

Now you might assume that I am a feminist but no I am not. I am an equalist. Feminism is needed in this world but more important is equalism. The world would be a much better place to live if there would be no discrimination (of any sort) not at all.  Nowadays, people are criticising feminists because they have the wrong idea of feminism. Feminism is more than just asking for the rights, it is way more than that. It is not at all about criticising the male rights but it is about encouraging the females to own their rights. Feminism has its own duty as rights come with responsibilities. So it will be better to name feminism as equalism. Equality is what the people in this world need. So I am an equalist. And yes gender discrimination is still prevalent in our society but if we all be equalists and contribute in spreading equalism, the discrimination will soon vanish.

P.S: I am thinking of delivering this as my speech in the classroom.

Also, what do you think about these points that I made? Also, if you have any suggestions we can discuss it in the comments below.

Get inspired from Coco Chanel!

“Success is often achieved by those who don’t know that failure is inevitable”

 -Coco Chanel 

Gabrielle Bonheur Chanel (1883-1971), the founder of the chanel brand, was an iconic french fashion designer and businesswoman who stills rules the heart of fashion lovers with her timeless designs, trademark suits and little black dresses(pearls were her personal favourite accessories). She is known as the world’s all time great courterier who ruled over the Parisian haute couture for about six decades.

She is the fashion inspiration to wide range of individuals but for me she is a hero. Not just her iconic fashion style impresses me but also her journey to be the coco chanel. Her influential rags-to-riches story and charismatic personality defines the reason she is the only fashion designer listed on TIME magazine’s list of 100 most influential people of 20th century.

Chanel was born in the poor part of France and had a frugal childhood. She lost her mother at the age of 12 and her father abandoned her in the orphanage where she learned to sew from the nuns. She also had a brief singing career before she opened her first clothes shop which was unsuccessful. But instead of giving up on it, she with her continous hard work, determination and ambition towards her dream made a name of her own. She successfully revolutionised the stereotypically conservative dresses of women of the period with her simple, practical and spontaneous designs which were admired by the woman all around the world. She pioneered the androgynous look for women when they believed in hustled skirts and hats with plumes.

She did what she was passionate about and did it with all her might. It wasn’t easy for her to achieve her dream but she was determined not to give up. Her financial status was an obstacle but the major obstacle was that she was born in the period when females weren’t respected and their views were suppressed. But she overcomes all her obstacles, achieved her dream and also provided freedom to other women through her comfortable clothes which allowed them to take part in sports and everything they were deprived of due to the conservative dresses. She redefined countless aspects of the fashion industry.

“Everyday is a fashion show and the world is the runway” 

-Coco Chanel

So darling, get up, dress up, show up and never give up on your dreams even if they seem challenging. Get inspired from Coco Chanel!

Is Chanel your fashion icon too? If not, who is? You can drop it in the comments below, I would love to know.

An introvert in the blogosphere 

How was your day? If you had a hard day or series of them over the week, don’t worry you will get through it. Trust me I don’t have that “good days” either. But if you have had a good or a great day I am glad you did.

Why did I start to blog?

Hello, everybody. I appreciate you for taking some time off your busy schedule to read possibly just another blog that you stumbled upon while going through your feed and I am glad you did. Well, it’s my first blog ever and probably the first time i will express my thoughts online. I recently had the urge to blog. I have started it as my hobby but I so wish it turns out to be my passion in a matter of few years as I have always loved to write. I am not quite of a talker because I feel my words are always lost in the chatters but when it comes to writing i sure can write a bulky book. I feel so connected with literature. Words are my only constants in the world of chaos.

I have always been an average student but I was always praised for my creativity. Well, you can assume that except my english and social studies teachers no other teachers quite liked me. I recently gave a terrible maths paper which I am sure I won’t pass because maths never was my cup of tea. I am more frustrated about the fact that I could have done well enough because i was familiar with the questions but I opted not to revise them before the exams. Now there’s no point being anxious and depressed about it because what’s done is done but we sure can learn from our mistakes, can’t we? The only thing I feel bad about is that my high school certificate is in ruins already. So, to take a break from it all I decide to blog instead. 

What is my social life like?

I don’t have a bunch of friends but just a few. Though I have a small group of friends they are all so precious to me. I believe in the famous saying, “the less people you chill with, the less problems you deal with”. Though, I would love to make new friends but something always triggers me to do so. Most of the time I feel like it’s better to be alone and stay peacefully at one corner of my room with my journal by my side so that I could write everything that stumbles upon my brain or just go through all my social accounts instead of being in an uncomfortably crowdy place (but I love to hang out with my cousins).

I find it interesting just to keep scrolling through the feed of my social accounts. I recently deactivated most of my social accounts because it would just keep me busy for hours without any productivity. Now, that I got some time off I decided to start writing a blog because it would at least shape my writing skills.

What will I blog about and how often will I do so? 

I will probably write about almost everything but I promise it will be informative, encouraging and interesting. I will prioritise lifestyle blogs. You will also find travel blogs, blogs about global issues, reviews of variety of stuffs (books, movies, tv series, beauty products, games, et cetera), festival blogs (mainly about the festivals here in Nepal because we celebrate alot of festivals) and much more. I will definitely blog weekly but if i can I will blog more often.

Thank you so much for your time. If you have any suggestions or feedbacks related to the blogs, your comments are appreciated.